The comforting phrases seem more for their own comfort than mine. Most of them don't even recognize me. They know so little about me that it is strange that they use statements based on religious beliefs. All manner of the old farmers show up, even some Amish ones. Second and third cousins who I haven't seen in decades show up. Homeless people no one knows show up. I think we even had people from some other funeral. I wonder if they ever figured it out. Old farmers seem to all look alike when they get over eighty years of age. After ninety, everyone looks a like regardless of gender.I agree a funeral has almost nothing to do with the deceased, but is a ritual for the living.
I suppose people find it hard to say something, not knowing how you feel deep inside, so they resort to standard comforting phrases.
I do sympathize (my father died last December), and I hope you can cope with your father's death.
Coping with my father's death is relatively easy as I consider it to be a normal, natural thing. Coping with my some of my relatives coping can be quite a pain in the butt. Thanks for your comment.