How to not give a fuck aymore?

[TheUnforgiven]

Hi guys, I really need a piece of advice... even if it's coming from just one of you I'll be happy.
As you might or might not know, I suffer from severe mental health problems. I've suffered severe bullying both irl and online, which messed up with my head.
The end of 2025 has been hell for me, between my divorce (irl) and the loss of GG (online). These two events have caused my depression to worsen, but somehow I'm still here...

Anyway, apart from CDG, sometimes I use this forum when I fancy talking with people, because I live on my own and I can get lonely (especially after living with someone else for more than 10 yrs): https://discuit.org/@Rogy (that's my profile).

To cut a story short, yesterday I posted a post about an Italy-shaped forest that you can find in Italy. Soon after people started replicating my post, by saying "Minnesota-shaped forest", "Guitar-shaped forest in Pampas", "Wisconsin hotel has Wisconsin-shaped pillows" etc...

Now, call me crazy but... I felt hurt. I only shared a curiosity post about my Country and I didn't expect people to do that.

Please, tell me honestly:
1. Would you consider this a bullying thing? Or am I being overdramatic?
2. How can I start not giving a single fuck? I mean, I try to reply with sarcasm at first, but when it becomes constant I can't anymore and I break down...

Thanks to whoever replies. I mean, I know it seems a stupid post, but I'm mentally struggling a lot atm...

 

[Dimoetes]

It honestly doesnt seem like bullying in this particular case - I would interpret it as people liked the format of your post and it got "memed", you inadvertently started a meme lol. Definitely don't think its malicious unless there is some context i am not aware of.

As for your general question, how to not give a f. I am a very sensitive person with a lot of social anxiety, and a people pleaser as well so I had the same struggle for years. What you have to remind yourself, consciously, that people bully for a few reasons, none of which have anything to do with you. For example, they didn't get enough attention as kids. Are you their parent? No, so their shitty attitude isn't your problem, you didn't raise their goofy self. Or, they are going through personal hard times and are lashing out at the world. Again, did you victimize them or cause their suffering? If not, again, not your problem. You might even just remind yourself to feel a little sorry for them, and simply avoid them un the future. Either way, NO response is the best response. These people are trying to pick a fight because they WANT a reaction...so how you win is not giving them what they want.
And remember: your mental illness is lying to you, that some assholes bad attitude is your problem. It ain't!

 

[TheUnforgiven]

Thank you @Dimoetes for your kind post, it really helped a lot.

You know, Gemini (lol, I vent to bots a lot of times) wrote the same thing... that it wasn't really bullying but just the involuntary start of a meme.
But reading the same perspective from a real person is somewhat... more conforting.

After the brutal dismissal from a website I don't want to mention anymore (but I know you know which one I'm talking about), it now feels like that wherever I go... I get attacked, even if I did nothing more than just sharing a post.

This afternoon I noticed that they have already stopped generating content that mirror my post about the Italy-shaped forest on Discuit, so I guess it was just it, the momentum... yet I had a restless night because of it and I was a zombie at work.

I know I can't be liked by everybody and of course there will always be someone who doesn't want to do anything to do with me... and that's fine.

But I hate when they start bullying me... if you don't like me, just leave me alone!