Hello from the US

[Dimoetes]

Hey everyone, after a few years of trying to better myself, here i am. The general consensus is that there's no cure for paraphilias but I'm very stubborn and a bit stupid so I spent years, lots of money on therapy, a handful of failed relationships etc trying to cure myself, I even took part in a study recently (that was fun actually). None of it really made a difference except for making me more self aware I guess. Looking back those decisions were all made with good intentions, but I like what I like and I've decided that doesn't need fixing after all. I wish I wasn't so lonely but there are worse things that could happen, so i cant complain too much. I'm not antisocial, I just have unusual taste in men, so who cares? Anyways I'm here for friends who won't judge me because you are all just as messed up as I am
(F, late 30s)

 

[IntriguedBystander]

Hey everyone, after a few years of trying to better myself, here i am. The general consensus is that there's no cure for paraphilias but I'm very stubborn and a bit stupid so I spent years, lots of money on therapy, a handful of failed relationships etc trying to cure myself, I even took part in a study recently (that was fun actually). None of it really made a difference except for making me more self aware I guess. Looking back those decisions were all made with good intentions, but I like what I like and I've decided that doesn't need fixing after all. I wish I wasn't so lonely but there are worse things that could happen, so i cant complain too much. I'm not antisocial, I just have unusual taste in men, so who cares? Anyways I'm here for friends who won't judge me because you are all just as messed up as I am
(F, late 30s)

Welcome aboard, Dimoetes! You are among friends here.

 

[Dimoetes]

Welcome aboard, Dimoetes! You are among friends here.

Thank you happy to know I'm not the only one

 

[Meatpie]

Welcome nice intro! You are on a interesting path of discovery being self-aware of it and being able to talk about it with others is a huge life step.

 

[Dimoetes]

Welcome nice intro! You are on a interesting path of discovery being self-aware of it and being able to talk about it with others is a huge life step.

It's been a wild ride, I will say it's nice to not hate myself anymore. That was exhausting

 

[jordanmorguen]

I do relate to everything you said. Every single sentence, every word. I'm in my early 40s. I spent many years trying to get rid of it. Enjoying it only so much, only for so long, and then shutting it all down. I finally have come to accept it, and it can still be challenging, but I think overall a better experience than the constant fighting with myself over it. Not to mention access to pleasure when I feel like it. Please DM me?

 

[callmecaleb]

I've loved the death and destruction of beautiful naked men since I was five. I didn't try to fight it but never found an outlet until CDG was established. I loved the posts and pics. Even posted a bit myself. But never allowed anyone to contact me via DM. I was a bit reticent and maybe paranoid. But after a while, I opened my DM to all and my life changed. I began to have relationships and feel comfortable about all my quirks. As I grew closer to the community, I lost any inhibitions I still had.

All of us are different in many different ways. I may not like one man's quirk and he might be turned off to one of mine. But we accept all quirks in this brotherhood. God knows I have some preferences that many members of CDG find........well, not pleasing. But I've found others who do swing my way. Now you have cleared a major hurdle, Dimoetes, I hope you can fully join and integrate into our community. We're a pretty nice crowd.