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Meatpie
07-05-09, 05:43 PM
My dad was very ill last two days, he started pissing blood. That is why I was away for a while.

We took him to hospital yesterday evening, he has an enlarged prostate and its giving him hell.

We got home a 2 am in the morning...I went to tell him good night I was really sleepy and tired....and thats when we had a sick conversation.

He started it.

"Can you lift me?," he asked. I had no idea what he was getting at.

"If I have to I will, why?"

"Have you been to a morgue?" He asked"

I didn't say anything.

He then told me that when grandpa croaked in 2004, he went to the morgue and saw him naked on a table.

He asked for a permission for burial and morgue personnel said, "Here is your man, take it"

Grandpa was not fat but really tall and strong, dad alone couldn't do it so he asked his best friend for help.

They went to the morgue with a casket and took grandpa by the feet and arms and laid him. They forgot to close his mouth though, I later saw him and we wrapped a towel round his head.

I don't think it is normal to make the relatives of the deceased to put them in their caskets, but it seems in Bulgaria morgues don't operate like in the rest of the civilized world, we are still in the Dark Ages.

I told my dad maybe if he had given them money they would have done it.

When I went to the morgue they too told us that we should ask the relatives of the decased for money to dress them although this was against the law.

I maybe necro but I think it would be brutal if I have to put dad in casket with my best friend.

The world is sick, you are lucky to live in civilized nations.

feetboy
07-05-09, 06:30 PM
that is brutal meatpie, although with death in THIS country being swept under the carpet, i would have found it an honour to put my relative in his coffin. did your dad have to dress your grandad?


i really hope your dad gets better, i hope so because illness is horrible and loosing a loved one is devastating.

Meatpie
07-05-09, 06:35 PM
No, a fat woman at the morgue dressed grandpa in his best suit.

My dad will probably croak soon.

I said a "fat woman" because morgue personnel have to be strong and obese in order to lift the bodies.

This is also one of the reasons why I decided no to start work at the morgue.

I am 80 kg, I don't think I could lift an obese corpse 150 kg or more.

Entilzha
07-05-09, 06:49 PM
OMG, that is really sad to hear.

I feel really bad and sorry for you, I hope and pray everything will be allright and if your dad passes away, that he will have no pain.

I am right there for you, if you need me.

Meatpie
07-05-09, 07:06 PM
Thank you.

I hope he recovers because I still need my dad.

I feel empty inside, like a corpse after autopsy.

Empty feeling.

My mom cried at the hospital and home yesterday, and I can't even a shed a tear.

I know we will all get destroyed sooner or later, but preferably later.

kitanaprincess
07-05-09, 07:22 PM
im so sorry meatpie...

i know im not that close to you (or close at all) but il be there if you need me too....

just have to ask.... =P

i hope your dad gets better!

my dad is ill tooo *sigh

Meatpie
07-05-09, 07:27 PM
hello my little necro princess,

can I ask whats wrong with your dad?

Entilzha
07-05-09, 07:33 PM
I know Meatpie how you feel.

I really do.

be strong mate!

Meatpie
07-05-09, 07:37 PM
:sad02:

aguy305
07-05-09, 11:15 PM
I wish I could say something that will help you take away the pain, But you and I know there is no such thing. Most of us will unfortunately suffer living through the death of our parents. Just be strong for your mother.

woyaokan1983
08-05-09, 01:13 AM
i am so sorry to hear that. meatpie.
meatpie, don't worry. your dad is not dying. i think it's just a prostate infection or a stone in the urethra, which doesn't kill people. My grandpa had the same symptom peeing blood several years ago and he was all right after a small operation. i think your dad is having the same thing.
Be an optimist meatpie, and believe things will turn around after all these hardship you have been through. i will burn incense for you in front of Bodhisattva (A Chinese goddess who solves problems for the ordinary people) and she will take away the pain you are suffering from as soon as possible.

Meatpie
08-05-09, 11:34 AM
He is recovering and the bleeding has stopped. He may need surgery but at least he is out of bed.


Most of us will unfortunately suffer living through the death of our parents.

Watching them suffer will be the worst part for me, once a person is dead you will at least they are in peace but suffering and pain is hell.


i am so sorry to hear that. meatpie.
meatpie, don't worry. your dad is not dying. i think it's just a prostate infection or a stone in the urethra, which doesn't kill people. My grandpa had the same symptom peeing blood several years ago and he was all right after a small operation. i think your dad is having the same thing.


They said he has an enlarged prostate, no stones.

ArrowMan
09-05-09, 03:36 PM
I am sad to hear all of this, Pie. There is much that can be medically done to minimize/repair an enlarged prostrate. Google the topic and learn as much as you can about it..so you and your dad can make wise choices what to do to engender healing !

Life has its highs and its lows. It is life.....not for the "faint-hearted." It takes strength to live...and we are surrounded by heroes every day and don't realize it....persons who despite ALL ODDS, continue to CARRY ON and SURVIVE.

Meatpie
09-05-09, 04:22 PM
Whats the point of surviving arrow when life is a constant struggle?

Everyone wants more and more money, bigger car, bigger apartment, everyone wants to move to LA, whats the purpose of this struggle when we all eventually die as equals?

I fucking hate this rat race.

aguy305
09-05-09, 04:38 PM
The point of surviving Meatpie is that all of us get a shot at changing the world. Either for better or worse.

That is we influence the outcome of the next generation by the actions we take today. That's why we struggle.

Meatpie
09-05-09, 04:48 PM
How do we change the world dude?

By posting on internet boards?

aguy305
09-05-09, 05:00 PM
That is one way. You influence people everyday. In these boards, when u talk to your neighbors or friends. All of us have influence. And that influence can have a ripple effect.

Meatpie
09-05-09, 05:03 PM
That is a great way of thinking, that you can change the world. I admire you.

I am not like that, in my opinion ordinary people just eat, shit and die.

In my opinion all life on earth, including humans, exists because there is a so much energy available.

We move around, we do work on the universe and our bodies release heat and in that way we contribute to the entropy of the universe.

That's it. There is no other reasonable explanation for human life.

aguy305
09-05-09, 05:09 PM
I guess when you are looking at it that way, as to how we fit in the universe, one can get lost, everything else we do seems trivial.

But you know what grounds me? Next time you walk down the streets of Sofia, look at kids you come across. That to me is what I'm here for. Somehow to make life somewhat better for them.

Meatpie
09-05-09, 05:14 PM
kids?

Kids are sweet but as the world runs out of energy they will find it increasingly hard to survive and probably fight and kill for resources.

The world is doomed, don't you understand that? Can't you see it?

Everything is OK for now though as there is still a lot of energy on earth but in the long run the universe and hunams are doomed to die.

aguy305
09-05-09, 05:18 PM
Of course we are all doomed to die. But as we wait for death, what do we do in the mean time?

If between now and my death I can have a positive impact, why not do it?

Meatpie
09-05-09, 05:21 PM
Of course we are all doomed to die. But as we wait for death, what do we do in the mean time?

Posting on internet boards, thinking we can change the world. :sm (43):


If between now and my death I can have a positive impact, why not do it?

We humans have a very negative effect on earth - pollution is one example, and also many species are dying because of human activity.

aguy305
09-05-09, 05:23 PM
We may have a negative effect, granted. But we also have the POTENTIAL of creating a more positive world. That is what needs to be exploited. We do have an ability to right our wrongs.

Meatpie
09-05-09, 05:32 PM
Ahhh, I love how Americans view the world. Being a powerful nation makes you think you can change the world....you can change it alright but will it become a better world?

Did the dropping of the atomic bomb on Hiroshima change the world?

Did 9/11 and the wars that followed changed the world?

And why didn't you nation sign the kyoto agreement and keeps pumping CO2 into the atmosphere, suffocating the planet?

WHY aguy305 (http://cutedeadguys.1stfreehosting.com/forums/member.php?u=22)? WHY?

ArrowMan
09-05-09, 06:55 PM
Ahhh, I love how Americans view the world. Being a powerful nation makes you think you can change the world....you can change it alright but will it become a better world?

Did the dropping of the atomic bomb on Hiroshima change the world?

Did 9/11 and the wars that followed changed the world?

And why didn't you nation sign the kyoto agreement and keeps pumping CO2 into the atmosphere, suffocating the planet?

WHY aguy305 (http://cutedeadguys.1stfreehosting.com/forums/member.php?u=22)? WHY?


Pie....

Like "a guy" portrays....we here in the USA are OPTIMISTS !

This is why we are the world's LEADERS ... because we are POSITIVE !

We are pioneers, we are energetic, we are dreamers, we are doers, we are loyal, we are optimistic....we are generous...we are proud...we are Americans.

Like Robert F. Kennedy said...
"There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why... I dream of things that never were, and ask why not? "

And as our new President says...."YES WE CAN ! "

And...yes ... you can, too !!

BE all you can BE, Pie, help make the world better along the way ... and you will SOAR !
:sm (8)::sm (8)::sm (8):

Meatpie
09-05-09, 07:14 PM
I love America and its people. Hope you pull out of this crisis soon otherwise small countries like mine are ruined. :pppttt4:

ArrowMan
09-05-09, 07:52 PM
I love America and its people. Hope you pull out of this crisis soon otherwise small countries like mine are ruined. :pppttt4:

Doncha worry, Pie...cuz' we are already doin' better... it is our Yankee fortitude, and we WILL prevail .. and so will yous !

:sm (8)::sm (8)::sm (8):

Meatpie
09-05-09, 08:42 PM
I really hope this Great Depression thing is over soon kuz its started affecting my life, my family my friends real bad.

aguy305
09-05-09, 08:52 PM
It will be over. Remember that universal law...For every beginning there is an end.

Entilzha
10-05-09, 12:07 AM
Unless there is a circular reasoning and it keeps on going like a continuing domino effect....

But I doubt it will.

Just keep yer chin up, always look on the bright side of life and every cloud has a silver lining.

TasteySweetTina
18-06-09, 05:50 PM
I live in Canada and I could never image any of this. Never realized how good I have it. Hope everything goes well for your dad, and you. Take care :)

Meatpie
18-06-09, 06:36 PM
Thank you.

Peehnut
11-07-09, 03:35 AM
in panama the relatives usually dress their dead

bluelq
11-07-09, 03:51 AM
That is really sad to hear.i hope your dad gets better,and hope he can recover soon.